The Prophet’s Teachings on Kindness to Parents and Keeping Good Relationships With Relatives

I asked the Prophet (PBUH) , “Which of the deeds is loved most by Allah?” Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Prayers at its proper time.” I asked, “What next?” He (PBUH) replied, “Kindness to parents.” I asked, “What next?” He replied, “Struggle  in the way of Allah.”
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “No son can repay the kindness shown by his father unless he finds him a slave and buys him and emancipates him”.
[Muslim].

Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “He who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him be hospitable to his guest; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain good the ties of blood relationship; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day, must speak good or remain silent”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Allah (SWT) says: `Anyone of you maintains good ties with anyone of you, I maintain good ties with them; and anyone  who severs your ties, I sever ties with him”.

commentary:  This will be manifested the day of judgement.

person came to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and asked, “Who among people is most deserving of my fine treatment?” He (PBUH) said, “Your mother”. He again asked, “Who next?” “Your mother”, the Prophet (PBUH) replied again. He asked, “Who next?” He (the Prophet (PBUH)) said again, “Your mother.” He again asked, “Then who?” Thereupon he (PBUH) said,” Then your father.’

“O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment?” He (PBUH) said, “Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest, then nearest”. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

The Prophet (PBUH) said, “May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both, attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Paradise (by being dutiful to them)”.
[Muslim].

A man said to Messenger of Allah (PBUH): “I have relatives with whom I try to keep the ties of relationship but they sever relations with me; and whom I treat kindly but they treat me badly, I am gentle with them but they are rough to me.” He (PBUH) replied, “If you are as you say, it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes (from hell), and you will be with a supporter against them from Allah (on day of judgement)  as long as you continue to do so”.
[Muslim]

Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “He who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations”. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

A man came to the Prophet (PBUH) of Allah and said, “I swear allegiance to you for emigration and Jihad, seeking reward from Allah.” He (PBUH) said, “Is any of your parents alive?” He said, “Yes, both of them are alive.” He (PBUH) then asked, “Do you want to seek reward from Allah?” He replied in the affirmative. Thereupon Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said,“Go back to your parents and keep good company with them”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

The Prophet (PBUH) said, “The person who perfectly maintains the ties of kinship is not the one who does it because he gets recompensed by his relatives (for being kind and good to them), but the one who truly maintains the bonds of kinship is the one who persists in doing so even though the latter has severed the ties of kinship with him”.
[Al-Bukhari]

Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “The bond of relationship is suspended from the Throne (of God), and says: `whoever keeps good relations with me, Allah will keep connection with him, but whosoever severs relations with me, Allah will sever connection with him”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

My mother came to me while she was still a polytheist, so I asked Messenger of Allah (PBUH), “My mother, who is ill-disposed to Islam, has come to visit me. Shall I maintain relations with her?” He (PBUH) replied,“Yes, maintain relations with your mother”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

When Messenger of Allah (PBUH) told the women that they should give charity, even if it should be some of their jewelery, I returned to `Abdullah bin Mas`ud (her husband) and said, “You are a man who does not possess much, and Messenger of Allah (PBUH) has commanded us to give charity. So go and ask him if giving to you will serve the purpose; otherwise, I shall give it to someone else.” He asked me that I should better go myself and ask. I went and found a woman of the Ansar at the door of Messenger of Allah (PBUH), waiting to ask a similar question as mine. The Prophet (PBUH) was endowed with dignity, and so we could not go in out of reverence for him. When Bilal (another companion of the Prophet who used act as door person at times) (May Allah be pleased with him) came out to us, we said to him: “Go to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and tell him that there are two women at the door who have come to ask him whether it will serve them to give charity to their husbands and to orphans who are in their charge, but do not tell him who we are. Bilal (May Allah be pleased with him) went in and asked him, and Messenger of Allah (PBUH) asked him who the women were. When he told him that they were a woman of the Ansar and Zainab, he asked him which Zainab it was, and when he was told it was the wife of `Abdullah bin Mas`ud, he (PBUH) said, “They will have a double reward, one for maintaining the ties of kinship and another for Sadaqah”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Heraclius (The King of Rome) asked me, “What does this Prophet (PBUH) teach you?” I said, “He orders us to worship Allah Alone and not to associate a thing with Him in worship, to discard what our ancestors said, to perform the Salat (prayer), speak the truth, and maintain the ties of kinship”.

A man came to Messenger of Allah (PBUH) and said, “Direct me to a deed which will admit me to paradise and take me away from the Fire”. The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “Worship Allah and associate no partner with Him, perform prayers, give charity, and maintain the ties of kinship”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Messenger of Allah (PBUH) added: “Charity towards a poor person is charity, and towards a relation is both charity and maintaining the ties (of kinship)”.
[Tirmidhi]




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